What to do when people are negative about your weight loss
Today, Customer Transformation Coach Candida tackles a very important issue, and one which she has plenty of experience in dealing with herself; What to do when people are negative about your weight loss. Click the video to hear her words and read her full advice below.
Why is it that people – and this includes friends and family – can be so negative when it comes to dieting? You may have heard: “You will probably put it all back on anyway.” or: “You’ve lost so much weight, you’re not ill are you?” – These remarks are typical of negative people who just can’t cope with the fact that you are doing something positive in your life. Why can’t people just say: “Congratulations“, “I’m so happy for you“, or: “Keep doing what you’re doing, it’s obviously working“? People who say it cannot be done should not ever, ever interrupt those who are doing it.
The less you respond to negative people the more happy and contented your life will become. At the end of the day, you are not losing weight for them so you do not need their opinions unless it is positive and encouraging.
Whilst I was on my TFR journey, I began to realise who were my real friends and who were not. One of my dear friends told me after I had lost 5 stone for her wedding that she was so proud of me and my achievement was incredible, whilst another so called friend told me I looked gaunt and ill and should stop losing weight. The ironic thing was, I had not reached my goal by that time. Two extremes and both had an effect on me.
So, how did I deal with it? The positive is easy to deal with because it was said in love and truth, however the negative – not so easy! I thought about the negative response to my weight loss for quite some time, trying to rationalise why they could be so mean. It hurt me, I had worked so hard to lose so much weight; there was no love or truth in her statement just pure jealousy. I told this person that I was on an incredible journey, that it was my life and my body and what was important was that I was healthy. She walked away and believe you me, so did I, in the opposite direction. One acquaintance binned forever.
By making such a huge change to your weight, your attitude is and will probably change too. I suspect that these negative people have things that they would like to change about themselves but you are making changes and that threatens them. It is quite weird, I know.
Ask them why they think it is acceptable to comment on your weight? Why they think it would be better for you to remain overweight than be a healthy weight or one of my favourites is “Thanks for your unsolicited opinion, but I’m doing this for me not you”. Their backhanded compliments are compliments none the less so you can opt to kill them with kindness.
Exuberantly tell them how fabulous you are feeling, what size clothes you are now wearing, how much energy you have and simply how happy you are. See what they have to say then! Keep in mind that these comments say absolutely nothing about you, but reveal great amounts about the person making them.
I read somewhere that the ‘The best revenge is living well’ and it is an attitude that I try to live by. For me, living well is taking care of myself and becoming more healthy. The revenge element is for those that have tried to undermine and keep me were I was, because that suited them. Many people find change incredibly threatening.
For me change is something that I now look for; wearing a sleeveless dress or skinny jeans that I can now get on without bulges of fat creeping out, pushing myself out of my comfort zone and feeling fitter.
My advice to you is to consider whether it’s time to expand your circle of friends to include those with a supportive, caring attitude. Remove yourself from negative people. They are not conducive to your life and never will be. Negativity breeds negativity. You are doing so well. Glow with pride.
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” Eleanor Roosevelt.
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