Challenges
Thursday – Food for Thought – Do you self Sabotage?
What is self sabotage all about?
When you think about it, self sabotage is crazy, but it is so common and something that all of us humans do to stop us from achieving our dreams.
1. We know that being overweight is causing us to feel depressed, embarrassed, horrible and sad.
2. We know that if we could get to our healthy target weight we would feel confident, happy, proud, attractive and proud.
3. We know that the new you plan works and that if we follow FAST FOCUS we can achieve our weight loss goal and create an amazing transformation in 90 days or less.
4. We know it is simple to follow and once in the zone we will feel empowered, in control and unstoppable.
But yet that chicken nugget on your kids dinner plate keeps calling your name…
Or that bun in the coffee shop has your name iced on top of it…
Or the fridge door magically opens every time you walk passed it….
Self sabotage, it can happen so fast, and it can derail us emotionally and physically setting us back days, weeks or even months.
Weird, isn’t it.
We are all different and unique, there is no one size fits all to find a solution to why you are triggered to self sabotage your success, health and happiness.
Understanding why you are self sabotaging is the first step to overcoming it.
Overcoming self sabotage is like being the key to the life and body of your dreams
Here are some things for you to think about:
Why are you self sabotaging your diet?
What are you afraid of?
What do you believe you cannot do?
What do you think might happen when you get slim?
Why do you think you don’t deserve to be slim and healthy?
How are you talking to yourself when you self sabotage?
Where do you keep self sabotaging yourself?
Who triggers you to self sabotage and why?
Now answer this question…
What would it mean to you to get and stay at your healthy target weight?
How would it improve
Your confidence?
Your happiness?
Your love life?
Your family life?
Your social life?
Your career or business?
Your style?
Your self esteem?
Your health?
Your energy?
Your self worth?
Your life experiences?
Your sense of adventure?
Your sense of fulfilment?
Your task today is to listen to Ali and how he talks about self sabotage and answer the questions below:
1) What causes you to self sabotage?
2) What time of day are you likely to self sabotage?
3) How does it make you feel?
ANSWER THE QUESTIONS IN THE COMMENT SECTION BELOW!!!
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I genuinely don’t know, it’s a case of me saying “ah feck it, once alive of bread won’t make a difference surely” when I KNOW it will.
Happens around dinner time or at night when there’s no one there to see me.
Initially I feel so satisfied and then I feel so disgusted and disappointed in myself.
Thank you for sharing with use Emer we can all relate to these things. xxxx
Feeling jealous that my husband is eating or drinking and I feel deprived, feeling really hungry because I’ve gone to long between meals, feeling that I’ve got so far to go its unreachable or so my mind tells me! Getting depressed about being fat so comfort eat!
Always in the evening. Strong all day but when I finish work I fall foul of the devil in my mind!
Satisfied then very quickly feel like a complete failure, useless, pathetic excuse for a human being !!
I can relate to you in every single point. Evenings are always the hardest but i always take myself for a walk or do the adult colouring book to take my mind off it 🙂 Thank you for sharing xxx
When something happens that is beyond my control I would usually eat it a
way,
The evenings probably the worst time as I would be alone as family out doing their own things,
Makes me feel worse then I did before I ate it as the problem is still there so nothing was gained by eating and breaking plan,
Thank you for sharing with us pauline. I think alot of us can relate to your first point but we always regret after we do it. You are amazing <3 xxx
In the past I self sabotaged all the time, work stress, kids being difficult, argument with loved ones and I would comfort eat til the cows came home then feel sick, upset, deflated, angry, disappointed and out of control. Since finding New You my whole concept of how to cope has changed thanks to the team and secret slimmers. I am so focused and determined that nothing will get in my way. I now go for walks, meditate, phone friends, watch a film or just go to bed and since January 2016 I’ve not binged or given into my demons once. I am a changed girl who’s gonna practice these values for the rest of my life xx
Yayyyyy Jennie go you love this post and you will change all of these xxxx
The first time I did the plan I was 100% nothing would get in my way of sticking to 4+4
The second time I tried for a week but those little things on my daughters plate just jumped into my mouth without even thinking. I just wasn’t mentally ready and gave up after a week
But now that’s me and I ready to go again I was making me husbands lunch last night and would have loved to try it but thought nope not this time I hope it stays that way
Well done for staying strong Ruth 😀 you can and will do it this time!
I do really well in the day on the plan . but when I’m at home on my own that’s when I eat I just say to myself its OK I will start tomorrow but I’ve been saying that for about 3 weeks now . I have no excuse tho as I spent about 80 pound on stuff. I really wanna be thin but I just need to get in to the zone . which is hard to do but when I eat I just feel down and think I don’t wanna be this weight anymore.
Ive been really good this time round and havent self sabotaged. Previously its all been down to emotions — happy sad celebrations…..
And evening times are my worst. Sitting relaxing watching tv
After self sabotaging i feel weak guilty and then the rut starts.
Thanks for sharing Stephanie evenings are always the worst i always colour in to keep my mind of it xxxx
I’ve realised I put too much pressure on myself. I join lots of fb groups and tell ppl my plans to loose xyz weight before a certain date. I feel like everyone watches my every move then, analysing what I’m doing. Ppl who don’t like vlcd’s. Once the pressure of their stares gets so bad, I crumple and think ah bugger it, maybe they are right. I’ll go join sw or cal count. This isn’t healthy, blah blah. I allow their feelings to project onto my journey! Which is stupid as it’s not them who carries this weight.
This time, I’ve told my close friends what I’m doing. Not worrying bout loosing a certain number by a certain date. Just learning to enjoy the journey there. It’s so easy to get caught up in being a certain size/ weight that we forget to have fun getting there. This is my journey. Not theirs.
So deep breaths, step away from the fridge and tell myself tomorrow is a new day!
The worse thing about me is that I can say no and there is no real reason why I self sabotage I just look at something and think…. I deserve it I’ve been so good….. Then I tell myself nope and then yes and then nope till finally the little imp that sits on my shoulder wins!!!!
There isn’t a specific time when I am weaker or self sabotage more but if I have people around me (as they all know I’m on the NY plan) the. I find I am less likely to self sabotage.
When I do give in to the silly bad imp I could literally kick myself!!!! I get angry and disappointed with my choices I’ve made and give myself a proper talking too about how silly I was to give and and how I’m better than that!
1) The main cause of my self sabotage is stress. High levels of stress that when not dealt with leads to over eating and panic attacks.
2) Night time is my danger time for self sabotage.
3) Self sabotage make me feel like a failure that I have some how wrecked all the hard work and weightloss I have achieved.
Stress, happiness, anxiety and all sorts of other emotions cause me to self sabotage. It’s like I need to learn how do deal with my emotions. Manage them differently.
Mid afternoon and evenings are the worst time for me.
I feel like I have failed in my mission to lose weight and it’s very hard for me to get back on track. It’s as though I need to let it go and move on. Forget it and look forward and not back. X
#1 After dinner @ 6pm, a nice meal no but always need something else.
Watching sport on tv especially if my favourite teams are playing, worse @ weekend.
#2 Daily 4-8 pm with Saturdays & Sundays worse.
#3 Ah tomorrow is another day & as I thought unable to keep to three meals a day.
Since I see how The NY Plan is changing my wife I began the plan too and into my second week .