Love Commandment 1:
Get Out of Your Own Way
The New You Plan: Fast weight loss results with our VLCD plan
February is nearly upon us, and as it is the month of love we shall be covering 10 New You Commandments to Love Your Body over the next few weeks, written by our transformation winner and recent addition to the team – Melissa Gordon. [Article below]
The 10 Commandments to love your body
Love Commandment 1: Get Out of Your Own Way
“Self-sabotage is when we say we want something and then go about making sure it doesn’t happen.” ~ Alyce P. Cornyn-Selby
The first Love Commandment I will be covering this month is very close to my heart as I am my own worst enemy sometimes and find myself failing purely due to self-sabotage.
Self sabotage can take many forms – procrastination, deluding yourself with excuses to enable continuation of bad habits, or even simply doing the exact opposite of what you should be doing to achieve your goals.
An example of this would be aiming to lose weight, but continually “forgetting” your gym gear so that you won’t have time to make your Zumba class; or putting off purchasing the TFR / VLCD bundle you want so that you can have an excuse not to start the plan.
So, how can you get out of your own way? Let’s look at some of the causes of self sabotage and how to sidestep them so that you can start LOVING YOUR BODY!
– Delusions and Solutions
Now this really is an expertise of mine! I gained an awful lot of weight over the course of about three years – and I’m talking at least 4 stone here! – but I just didn’t notice.
How can that possibly be?
Well, every time I went up a trouser size I loudly complained about how clothing shops were making clothes smaller and smaller these days, or that the jeans I could no longer fit into had just shrunk in the washing machine.
That the photo that showed my double chins was just taken at the wrong angle. That the reason I was out of breath when climbing one flight of stairs was because I was probably getting a chest infection.
It was only when one morning I went to work and was looking at some film footage of an event I attended at work that it all hit home. I didn’t realise that the obese woman on the screen was me – I thought it was just some stranger in the shot… that I pitied.
When I realised with a jolt at just how big I had become, it shocked me and it was painful. But I am thankful for it, as it helped disintegrate my delusions.
The Solution to Delusion? Honesty.
It seems very simple, but when you have something that is incredibly difficult to face – like that you REALLY ARE a Size XXXL – it can be the hardest thing in the world.
The trick to this is FEELING. Feel the real emotion (fear, sadness, panic, whatever) and don’t automatically push it away or distract yourself from it. Hold onto it, admit what the truth really is behind it, and know that now you are AWARE you can take action to CHANGE it!
The Freedom of Failure
This might seem a little strange at first glance, but the fear of failure is what usually stops people from trying and causes procrastination.
It may seem daunting to begin great journeys into the unexpected – like starting a Total Food Replacement diet and being scared of falling off the wagon or finding it too hard. But don’t let this stop you!
A trick to overcoming this is to define how you think you might fail, and then write actions for how you are going to rebound from these mistakes, so the fear of failure is diminished. The more mistakes you make, the more you will learn about yourself, your triggers and how to avoid them next time.
And remember – mistakes simply show that you are trying!
Big Picture Blues
Deciding that you need to take action and make a huge change in your life is wonderful, but can also seem impossible! When I knew I had to lose 6 stone (at least) I felt completely overwhelmed, and beginning the first step to lose a few pounds seemed a little pointless in the grand scheme of things.
Instead of looking at the whole journey ahead, break it down into smaller goals and milestones, with rewards when you reach them! Adding a deadline can also be incredibly motivating in conjunction with these, and looking forward to a nice treat such as a massage or getting your nails done makes the road ahead much easier to travel.
Are you a self-saboteur? I’d love to hear your stories and any more tips or tricks to help us all GET OUT OF OUR OWN WAY!
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Lots of Love,